The biggest lesson I’ve learnt about being a mom so far is knowing that I know nothing. Any preconceived ideas on what I thought to be the “norm” have long been confined to the past. Most importantly, I have learnt to trust my gut and let my intuition lead the way to discovering new (or old) ways of looking at things, examining all the evidence before me, to be a critical thinker and to be my sons advocate.
I think I always knew that I had the right to be and feel empowered during pregnancy and I always wanted a conscious birth experience so when I fell pregnant, that was exactly what I started working towards. I never for one moment even questioned whether we would go the circumcision route, I always assumed we would… being “educated” and all that. I knew it was supposedly more hygienic. I knew my son’s chances of contracted HIV would be reduced by up to 60% – never for one moment considering that my son would not be inoculated against AIDS with 100% certainty. I never thought to give my son the right to be hygienic. Well, this all changed when he was born. We had worked so hard in doing everything in our power, even when faced with adversity to make sure his arrival into this world was a peaceful and gentle experience and now that he was born I could see how perfect he was in every single way – there was no way I was going to inflict any sort of trauma to my baby boy, I knew about implicit memory but never put the two together. I knew that I had been wrong.
The more research I did into the topic of circumcision, the more wrong I knew I had been. I knew that I would not be stuck on any one belief I may have with regards to parenting – I knew I would always be prepared to be wrong.
I no longer have the right to follow blindly. My baby is not some statistic.When I gave birth to my son, I gave birth to my beating heart that lives outside of me. I know that I am the only I can trust who truly has my baby’s best interest at heart. Although I know that not all my decisions will be the right ones, I know that they will all be conscious decisions. I am brave enough to want to learn more and do more. Brave enough to question old mindsets even in the face of adversity.
I found this great article on www.DrMomma.org entitled peaceful parenting: Circumcision: The Most Twisted Logic in the World. It really leaves one with the feeling of “duh!”
*My views are my own personal feelings on the subject matter and are right for me. With your own research, you may come up to your own conclusions which are different to mine. I applaud you for taking the time to research the subject matter and not follow blindly, even if the outcome if different from mine.