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You’re Loosing Me Aletha

I’ve recently read Tears & Tantrums and now just about done with The Aware Baby…. I disagree with the non-nutritive nursing (as evidence points to its benefits – and thought I would just read on through anyways assuming Solter is not aware with the new evidence or the biological aspects of milk production). I really have enjoyed the books as a whole but battling with a comment here and there. For example: “I do not recommend tickling because it is a form of attack that can cause babies to feel powerless. Some babies seem to enjoy being tickled, but only because it is the only form of touching they have ever experienced, aside from routine care. ” Now I agree that not all babies like to be tickled and tickling can be taken too far but Jett absolutely LOVES it….. He will seek me out saying tickle or will try and tickle me. Jett had a gentle birth, latched within the first hour, was not seperated from me (still hardly ever is at 22 months), he has never been in a cot, was and still is worn, (I can count how many times he has been in a pram and that’s only because he was sleeping when we reached our destination)….. Still receives daily baby massages… Loads of kisses and cuddles. He is a happy, confident, independant soul and he is living testimony to the benefits of attached parenting. I take umbrage to Aletha’s comments. Oh…. And throwing babies into the air means you are acting out your desires to control and dominate them…… Mmmm….. Kinda feels like she’s loosing me here :-/

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Two months later & I’m STILL a lazy blogger! (a recap of love & passion)

It’s been two months since my last post and I just cannot believe how fast time flies. In this time I have had the privilege of witnessing Jett’s first boy crush (which really was the sweetest thing). A pregnant friend came over to our house for a cuppa and when Jett’s gaze met hers, he hardly knew what to do. For a moment it seemed as though time stood still for Jett as his eyes widened and his jaw literally dropped. I think as he noticed this new, uncontrollable feeling inside of him he ran as quickly as his two little feet could take him out of the room, with his eyes slowly peeking out from around the corner. Just as nimble as his first flight, he appeared from behind the couch, this time a little braver with more than just his eyes peering over but the sweetest little smile and rosey, blushing cheeks too. This went on for the entire time my friend was over – really the sweetest thing to witness, enough to make any bad day feel rosey.

In this time I have also had the privilege to be there for my boy in his most vulnerable moment of his first full blown “tantrum” or meltdown and I am proud to say that although very hard for me, I was present with him the entire time and what I had read in many places before this happened proved to be entirely accurate – Jett felt heard, relieved, calm and happy – without a harsh word spoken from me, without dimenshing his very real frustrations. I was able to be really present for my boy and although a “tantrum” is a very rare occurance, when they do happen, it is easier and easier for me to stay grounded. For a link to a really great article that explains the method behind my madness check this out Cry for Connection: A Fresh Approach to tantrums and the whole of Aha!Parenting.com

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